These are the entries while beginning the journey, planning the trip, and doing all of the before-plane stuff.
'06 Before Departure
January 27, 2006
I put the application in, made the cut, and am going. Here are my expectations [this is the kind of stuff that one writes "Dear Diary" before and is usually personal, but since we are all in this together, here are my thoughts]:
* I think that I'll be amazed that the people that we are "helping" are happy. I think that I'll come back and think that we don't know a damn thing about happiness. They get it, we buy it.
* I think that I'll choke up quite a bit there. I blame part of this on Kim, part on our kids, and part on time. As I've acquired either a larger appreciation or a larger amount of the previous three, I've realized how important they (all three again) really are. I'll miss them and I'll miss what they represent to people that I'll meet.
* I think that we should all be tired at the end of the evening (after either building, planting gardens, or just working); but I think that we'll be jazzed about what we've seen and what we've learned that we'll be "over-tired". I think that once we make it back to our beds, we'll fall asleep in 30 seconds -- tooth brushing be damned!
* I think that there will be guilt upon returning to the US. Kim and I were talking the other day about Pukefest 2006 and about how neither of us were too crazy about it, but that we were able to (a) clean the mess up, (b) wash the sheets in our own home, (c) know that if our child(ren) continued to throw up, that we could drive our own car to take our children to a good hospital for assistance.
* I think that I'll think that 18 hours on a plane is a long time and over and over again, I'll picture taking out the three adjacent seats and hanging cots in the same footprint so that we could all sleep horizontally. I absolutely know that I'll think that I'll do that - I do it now on a red-eye -- everytime.
January 30, 2006
Late January 2006
February 8, 2006
The amount of support is still quite amazing and still a little overwhelming. I've received a number of emails regarding the trip.
In an email to a friend, I wrote:
It is interesting how it is all coming together. I feel quite lucky that I am not worrying about any of the details too much. Every now and then I wonder just how bushed I'll be at the end of the day there, or what will I really be doing, or what if my roommate snores like a locomotive.
To which, I received this response:
It is funny how you look at this event with "normal concerns" when the place you are going is nothing but normal. I would be worried about bugs, animals I cannot identify yet it is being served for dinner, the bacteria that is running amuck...
I'd like to say that, "Of course I am not going to worry about bugs, animals, or other such things because I know that I will be protected". . . Truth be told, I'm a little too naive or a little too trusting to have thought about those things.
Now given the time to consider them . . . I figure that Faith (and a little common sense) will take care of the truly troublesome things. I really don't think that a Supreme Being would have me travel around the globe only to succumb to something really rotten -- unless there was a very good lesson for me to learn.
So, if do eat a bunch of bad bacteria, I hope that I can remember that I am supposed to be learning something during Pukefest 2006, Part Tres.
February 15, 2006
The other day, I was listening to a podcast called "Brain Brew Radio" about business and marketing. This specific episode contained some nuggets about team building and leadership -- typical consultant money-making issues. However, something during the discussion caught my ear. Here is a paraphrase: At some point in your life, after you've made all of the money that you can make and after you've achieved all of your business goals, you will ask yourself "So What?" I was impressed that a consultant would "go there." I think that he gets it.
February 26, 2006
I went to a Go Mamelodi meeting this evening and learned a little more of how I'll be helping. . .
Apparently, about 6 years ago, the Mamelodi township built about 600 house-skeletons (frames for a house, but no walls -- people that have been to Mamelodi call them picnic shelters). These were erected to help residents create their own house -- once the frame and roof were installed, it was thought that the owners would then install the walls and have a more substantial home -- kind of like a Habitat for Humanity.
Unfortunately only about 5 or 6 have been finished by the local residents.
So, I have been assigned to one of 10 Construction Teams (consisting of 8 people). It is anticipated that our Teams will build 40 new concrete block wall homes (with indoor electricity). For those of you looking for "yeah, but what are you actually doing Dave?" I believe that "Being a Grunt" is the appropriate answer. Odds are good that I'll be carrying blocks, mixing mortar, or just doing what I am told -- should be kind of nice.
9.43 p.m. on Sunday, February 26, 2006 [this is a transcription I made just after the meeting]:
I am driving home from a coordination meeting for the trip to Mamelodi. As I am driving, I am struck by how freakishly amazing God's influence (right word?) is for this trip.
I have previously written about being worried about simple things like room mate (Selfishly, I was worried that my roommate and I might not mesh and that it would be a source of stress for me.)
Over the past few weeks, I have been doing some overt praying on the roommate situation and some covert/subliminal praying. This evening, I had the chance to meet my roommate. And just actually meeting him helped allay any fears of the unknown before arriving in South Africa. And (fortunately) he seems like a pretty good guy and it seems like we have a pretty similar working background.
What a nice gift it was to receive 46 days before we leave for South Africa.
Previously, I had heard about "just have faith in God" and everything will turn out right. The more I am able to give up my internal struggles to God, the more I learn that life is easier and my life becomes part of the Master Plan. (See An Engineer Looks at 40).
I guess that my other point is that learning to have faith is not really all that easy. But once one has it, it is (retrospectively) painfully simple. Probably analogous to my daughter's and son's learning to ride a bike -- really hard and they just didn't get it until BAM, they'll always have it.
March 8, 2006
Today was more of the rubber-meets-the-road kind of preparation day -- Today was shot day. A good and nice nurse or doctor at Passport Health explained the different shots to me and then placed four needle-induced holes in my arms. Not so bad until later in the day one of my sons leaned on one shoulder to get my attention -- he did. A few more facts about the trip: -- All of the plane tickets for the trip down have been purchased ($400,000 +/-). -- Some of the students that we'll be working with will benefit from receiving school supplies -- We're taking two suitcases on our trip -- one to pack with clothes, one to pack with school supplies - I believe that Delta is an unknowing assistant to the cause. The group of 300 have been divided into about 150 people working on gardening, 80 on construction, and the remainder with the kids. A new fact: We've been asked/invited to stay in homes of some of the residents of Mamelodi and have been assured by our South Africa Sister-Church that it would be safe and powerful. This may be literally the first time that these Mamelodi residents have had a white person in their house! And we've been invited to spend the night. When I first heard of this, I was a little hesitant. But upon further consideration, it seems like it might be a total immersion into the trip. This will (I believe) one of the harder items to relate/adequately describe upon our return to the US. Only about 40 days to go!
March 22, 2006
This evening, Kim and I went to Playhouse in the Park to see a show called "Company". It was a musical and it was entertaining and then some. All of the characters acted, all of them sang, and all of them played instruments for the music for the story. The instruments and the musicians were well-incorporated into the play. As I was watching this (and don't forget that I am still naive about South Africa) I was thinking about how lucky we are that we were able to have fun and to be entertained by something as (relatively) trivial as a play. I wonder how high up the Maslow's pyramid entertainment is? [Actually, I wonder where it fits in (Survival, Security, Social Acceptance, Self-Esteem, Self-Actualization)]. All in all, we (Thurston's and most of the people that live anywhere near us) don't have to struggle too hard for the first two levels of the pyramid. And (post-high school), social acceptance and self-esteem are worthy items of work, but still usually aren't an overwhelming and 24/7 mind-bogging struggles. So my point is actually a question: After returning from South Africa, (a) will I feel sorry for those in Mamelodi for not being able to be entertained by such a play or (b) will I feel sorry for we Ohioans for "not getting it" and having to be entertained by such a play. March 24, 2006 (updated 3/25/06) This link is the first real view of the rubber meeting the road for one of the things that we'll be doing in Mamelodi. This website was created by one of the advance team members that visited Mamelodi and did a dry run a few months ago (thanks to . And this link provides an overview of a previous trip. Click on it, I think that you'll enjoy (and maybe be awed by) the pictures and the text.
March 29, 2006 (early Wed a.m.)
March 29, 2006 (early Wed a.m.) Getting closer to the push off date - 14 or 15 days now. People are now asking me if I am nervous or excited about the trip -- and to be honest, I haven't really thought about how I feel about it. Although that seems a little bit of a brush off answer, the reason is a bit deeper. . . I'm not nervous or excited as I am quite confident that things will turn out for the best - however they ultimately turn out -- it will be for the best. . . and if I can just keep that thought in mind when things seemingly go to pot, all will be well. A difficult lesson for me will be to tolerate the building of the houses inefficiently -- people standing around, not having the right material, not knowing what to do, and not asking what they should be doing. It will be interesting to see how the teams gel together and how each individual makes the most of each team. Grace will be key as will "defrag time" should things get edgy. On April 2, we'll be getting our plane tickets and itinerary. Going over, there will be three groups going from CVG, DAY (on ATA) and DAY (on Delta). Coming back, I think that we'll be landing everywhere from CVG and DAY to Lexington or Louisville -- that should make car retrieval interesting.
April 5, 2006 (Wednesday)
Following is an email to construction team members (maybe I am double dipping by making an email into a log entry, but alas, I am going to use my we-have-four-kids, two-in-time-conflicting-sport-activities get-out-of-jail-free card). Hi Fellow Builders, It was good meeting most of you the other evening at Crossroads. Here are somethings that I thought might be useful. If they are, then great. If not, then not too much time taken. . . If you haven't yet seen the link, click on http://pharmacy.uc.edu/mamelodi/Homes.html to see what we'll be building. You can also see some pictures from a previous recon trip here: http://pharmacy.uc.edu/mamelodi/crossroads.html In the past when starting a new project (any new project -- even with the exact same crew doing the exact same task) there is always a learning curve. There will be one here too. So we'll hit our stride after some amount of time. One thing that occurs frequently on a construction site is a morning meeting to (a) talk about the goals for the day and (b) to remind everyone about the safety issues. This will probably be a good idea. We might talk about: (1) tripping hazards - we'll want to get loose items out of our paths - no different from the kid's toys in the basement. (2) Pinched Fingers - we'll probably have one or two - wearing gloves will keep the pinching to a minimum. (3) Falling items - try not to get your or your head under anyone setting blocks as a block (obviously), trowel, or even falling mortar wouldn't be pleasant. From the construction standpoint, it'll be good and important for everyone to have a hand in each type of work -- whether it is laying blocks, mixing mortar, doing layout, or quality control. The variety will be physically and mentally helpful for everyone. We'll be using (I am assuming) real mortar with real cement during the construction -- during the training, the mortar we used had a small amount of cement in it, but it wasn't a full mix. As you may know, cement is an alkali or base (opposite pH of an acid). It is possible for the mortar mix to burn, so we'll need to remember that. (Don't get hung up on this, just don't eat or play in the mortar.) It'll dry out your hands to an amazing degree too -- bring lots of lotion. You'll probably want to make sure that you bring some sunglasses or some safety glasses. Of course, if you're using a hammer to cut a block, you'll want to wear the safety glasses. At other times if/when you're mixing mortar, you'll want something to keep splashes from your eyes (sunglasses would be ok). First Aid - I am planning on bring a generic kit of Band-Aids, bandages, etc. I imagine that I'll have enough for everyone in our group. We've all practiced building the walls near the ground. Near the end of the project, we'll not just be moving cinder blocks and mortar to the site, we'll also need to get it to the right higher level for placement. Something to consider. Cleaning the site at the end of the day - I don't know why, but it is useful to "bookend" the day's construction - I don't know if it helps with the day's closure or with tomorrow's beginning, but it helps for some reason, so we'll try to spend 15 minutes near the end of the day doing a cleanup/straighten-up. Also at the end of the day, we'll probably be pretty dusty and dirty -- that means that on the third day unless you've done wash (and assuming you've brought just two pairs of jeans) you'll start out in dirty jeans - no big deal. But my point is to make sure that you bring enough socks that you can have a clean pair each day without doing wash (at least six pairs). [Maybe this is obvious to everyone else, but it seems like a reasonable point to make.] We'll make sure that we always stick together. If something unexpected happens, we'll error on the side of the conservative. At no time will anyone be "on-purposed asked" to do something they either don't want to or can't [is there a correct way to phrase that?]. If anyone is asked such a thing, then please respond with some kind of "I don't feel comfortable doing that." or "I'll do it, but I'll need a hand to get it done." statement. As I proofread this, I realize that I need to add a disclaimer of sorts -- This email may contain some downers, but getting this type of info "out there" will help us when we're "over there". I am quite confident that our work will kick butt, that we'll be happily tired at the end of each day, and that we'll come home knowing that we've (literally) improved the world. Looking forward to it. Feel free to call or return email with questions or comments. Dave PS's: Some (possibly) useful construction information: Cement - an ingredient in concrete and mortar - it is the "glue" that reacts with water that holds the aggregate (rocks and sand) together. Concrete - a mixture of water, cement, aggregate (rocks and sand) Mortar - a mixture of water, cement and sand -- no rocks. Also, the real mortar that we'll be using should stick to our blocks much better - so if it fell off during the training, it'll be better in real life. Blocks - I think that each block is about 8 inches tall, so to build a 11 foot tall wall, we'll need to install blocks 16 or 17 tall. Finally: If this has been useful, feel free to forward it to other constructors. And if has not been useful, well, then, please don't forward it.
April 6, 2006 (Thursday)
OK, it is Thursday evening and I am missing "The Office", but I'll make this entry. OK, actually "The Office" has been over for a few hours, but as we were out this evening and I couldn't tape it as Barney [It is his birthday today - 1992 - don't ask why I know, I just do.] was occupying #4 downstairs so that we could make our escape without the tears-worthy-of-an-Oscar scene. So, I guess my point is that it is late and this will be short. During my "request-for-funds" stage, I stated that I would post daily goings-on so that everyone would know, well, what was going on. I've given this a lot of thought. Initially, I thought that I'd just take a wifi-PDA and keyboard and provide text updates. As I've thought about it a bit more, I realize that pictures are very good - I remember receiving posts about our friends' adoption here and here too and liking the pictures as much as the text. But, I've been warned about taking a PC there. Also, I don't really want to transfer the web-design software from the desktop to the laptop. So, the point of this entry is to say. (a) I'll be updating the site (with pictures) from South Africa (still assuming that I can get on line there) and (b) for my ease, the updates won't be posted on this page until I return, but (c) they will be posted on a blog page at orangeshirtguy.blogspot.com. Oh, also, there are several blog entries there right now that are, well, not silly, but out of place, so you've been advised (not X or R rated, just geek-rated).